Stop Blaming The World

Think of the worst situations you ever got into in your life. Were the decisions that led to it yours, if so then stop blaming the world for it.

A response to a mess you are in can trigger two thought processes, blame the world, circumstances, people, etc. The other is to take responsibility for your actions and accept that it was your decisions that led to this situation however uncomfortable it is.

Blame The World Attitude

Whenever anyone gets into trouble the reflex action of self-preservation kicks in. Our body is not just built for physical preservation, but it also tries to preserve our emotions, mind, and ego.

When we get in trouble the first response is always to blame someone else, although not productive, this is usually how most people react instinctively, the self-preservation reaction. I think the prime reason for such a reaction could be our past experiences where being at fault quickly evolved into being held responsible for a mess and being considered undependable.

This is not restricted to responses from others, but also the way we look at ourselves.

When we are blamed for a situation it is not such a great feeling, nobody wants to be considered a failure, especially not in their own eyes. So our mind concocts a story that justifies our actions, and responses to a situation.

We tell ourselves it is not us, it is others who forced us into such a situation. We often do this without realizing if it is happening to us, the likelihood is, that it is due to an action we took, or a situation we created. Assume that in 10% of the cases you were truly not at fault, but the way you respond to it is still in your control.

Just believing you are not at fault and not taking any kind of remedial action is not productive at all.

As a community, we need to be more forgiving to prevent people from fearing taking responsibility. but unfortunately, this is not always the case. So if others do blame you, take control and responsibility for getting yourself out of the mess.

Take Responsibility

Taking responsibility either for your actions or your situation is the only effective way to take control. A person who does not blame others and takes control of a situation is the one who is truly looked up to as a leader.

I live in a Strata Community with over 197 residents. And as with any community with a large number of people and assets to maintain we often get into a situation where things are not going the way we want. Now our community has many different kinds of people, there are the ones who are always crying about the state of the community with no solution offered, and asking others to do something about it.

Then we have ones who come forward and take action for the community. Of the two kinds which one would you prefer to lead the community, the one who cries, or the one who comes up with a solution? I would always go for the second kind.

Even in our personal lives, we are often quick to blame lack of time, lack of cooperation from others, and situations at fault for the trouble we get in, or tasks left incomplete.

But the thing is, if you were serious about not getting into this situation you would have handled it differently, or at least in this circumstance you would pull up your pants, and work towards getting out of this situation instead of cribbing about it.

Conclusion

Essentially I intend to highlight that in 90% of cases if you are in a situation that you did not want to be in, then you are the only one to blame.

We are the riders of this Elephant called life. Sometimes the Elephant may not behave in the way we intend to, but we cannot blame the Elephant for it, because it is charting its course based on the rider’s direction.

So when you see life is not moving in the direction you want it to go, take a pause and with gathered information decide how to to respond. You may choose to react instinctively wave your hand around and create a scene blaming the world, or you can respond and plan your next course of action without blaming others.

This attitude also helps you to make deliberate decisions in life to have the course of life always be in your control to a large extent.

So stop blaming the world and take the reins of your life, nobody else can impact your life as long as you don’t allow them to.

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